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Friday, February 08, 2008

Viva la Difference

It's always dangerous to generalize along gender lines, but sometimes something jumps out at you that can't be ignored (and simply must be shared).

Take for example the wedding Zahava and I attended last night at the Great Synagogue in Jerusalem.  The ceremony had separate seating, so it was fairly easy to observe the difference between the way the men and women were reacting to what was going on around them.

For the most part the women sat in reverent silence, memorizing every detail from the trim on the brides gown to the color of the flowers in the beautiful arrangements... and then occasionally to architectural accents of the sanctuary.

The men were a bit more restless and I watched in amusement as their glances shifted from the sound system components to the musicians playing the music... and then over to the uniform insignias on the large group of soldiers present from the groom's army unit.

I glanced over towards my wife to see if I could catch her eye, but she was sitting between couple of friends... all of them staring in rapt attention towards the Chupa (wedding canopy).

Just then I felt my phone vibrate.  I surreptitiously took it out and saw that I had a text message waiting to be read.  It was from a friend who was also attending the wedding but who was seated elsewhere.  His message:

"If you have a direct shot, take it.  :-)"

And no, I didn't have a camera with me.  It was simply a sarcastic/cynical joke between two married men at a wedding.  While our wives sat side by side soaking up every detail of the ceremony... we were making childish jokes about how to 'save' this bachelor from a life of wedded bliss.

Viva la Difference!

Posted by David Bogner on February 8, 2008 | Permalink


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I once was threatened with castration for offering to give the groom a cyanide pill.

Posted by: Jack | Feb 8, 2008 9:30:18 AM

I gave my brother's wife a sympathy card on her wedding day.

Posted by: Lynn | Feb 8, 2008 2:20:48 PM

Gee, I wonder who sent the text message...

Shabbat Shalom!

Posted by: tnspr569 | Feb 8, 2008 2:37:44 PM

When I was best man for my old college roommate, a couple of minutes before I took him out to stand in the appropriate spot, I mentioned that I had the car running right out the door in case he wanted to make a break for it.

My sis-in-law and her hubby were married in the Great Synagogue, so I've been there, and have several pictures of the family in front of there, in there, etc.

Posted by: JDMDad | Feb 8, 2008 6:08:00 PM

"It's always dangerous to generalize along gender lines"

How did you come up with that one. It is always safe to generalize along gender lines. If you generalize along gender lines, you will usually be correct, your life will be easier and you will be a less confused person. I think what you meant to write is this: "It is always dangerous to generalize along gender lines out loud ."

Posted by: amir | Feb 9, 2008 8:45:16 AM

9 out of 10 women who read this post are going to find it irreverent.

Posted by: Wry Mouth | Feb 9, 2008 11:56:22 PM


[and you know exactly the tone that should be read in.]

Posted by: Baila | Feb 10, 2008 12:00:18 AM

Hmmmm....hope your wife does not read this post. :)

Posted by: Gila | Feb 10, 2008 2:30:30 PM

Hmmmm....hope your wife does not read this post. :)

Posted by: Gila | Feb 10, 2008 2:30:39 PM

Jack... As well you should have been! Everyone knows that the groom is powerless to act. You needed to step up and do the needful!

Lynn... Excellent! :-)

tnspr569... It was a Rabbi. But that's all I'm saying. :-)

JDMDad... As I told Jack, making the offer was nice... but it is like offering someone the last donut. You make the offer knowing they won't accept. if you were a real friend you would have simply tossed him in the car. :-)

amir... I stand corrected.

Wry Mouth... When I first read your comment I thought you might have misspelled irrelevant. But I realized you wrote what you meant. :-)

Baila... Too much TV. :-)

Gila... No worries. Zahava never reads my blog. ;->

Posted by: treppenwitz | Feb 11, 2008 2:24:34 PM

So... THAT'S why you smiled when you took your phone out. I wasn't sure.

Glad you and Zahava could make it - it was great seeing you guys again after so long. I'll e-mail some pix after I upload them.

Kol tuv, and mertcheshem by you (Tali and Ariella are both... what, 14?)!


Posted by: Avi | Feb 13, 2008 8:17:16 PM

hey, havent come here in awhile -- you know how it is.

great post. so DID you take the picture? i would love to see it.

i think i might know who that rabbi is...

Posted by: Tonny | Feb 16, 2008 9:53:48 PM

oh, no camera...right...well, im very happy you guys came, and i hope you enjoyed the wedding.

Posted by: Tonny | Feb 16, 2008 9:59:09 PM

so the pictures were dropped off yesterday, and of the many pictures taken at the chuppah were of course pictures of the kahal...theres a great picture of you looking over on the womens side...

Posted by: Tonny | Feb 19, 2008 9:16:01 PM

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